Lamara Answers Top Questions
What vision do you have for your life and your coaching practice?
Through my fullest expression, millions of people for generations to come, will know and embrace love, joy, and unity. I see that simply the way that I live my life, day to day, ripples out in positive and significant ways. And, I envision the live and filmed events that I create accelerating this global movement for a new paradigm. What I want is for my presence alone, whether I am facilitating, performing, or moving through the day, to be a powerful transmission that inspires people to give and live in more love for themselves, others, and the earth.
What are the top three things you love about coaching?
I deeply connect with that place of oneness, where I see that we are all truly the same and there truly is no difference between any of us……… different mind/ body/ personality, yet the nature of our human-ness is all the same!
I love to watch someone re-create their perception of themselves or reality such that they leave, an hour later, a new person.
love the intimacy of seeing and being seen……… the preciousness of connecting on the deepest levels of human existence.
Before I started coaching I …
I was counseling, teaching and being a student. My undergrad and graduate studies were in psychology, so the world of supporting others in self-exploration has been a major part of my life since I was a teenager. I’ve been passionately drawn to personal growth, spirituality, health, and healing. So, I’ve tried on many hats in the areas of nutrition, yoga, massage, counseling, public speaking, performing, and facilitating.
What makes you laugh?
when I see all of existence as a big meaningless movie
whenever I remember that humans are simply animals
wrestling with Shems…… playing chase with Shems 🙂
being silly with friends……… especially taking on different voices or characters “improv style”
MY OWN SELF AND THE CRAZY THOUGHTS I THINK
The legacy I want to leave behind is …
The permission to feel the pleasure of being alive, such that dancing, singing, and hugging our way down the street is totally the norm, and it’s celebrated to love yourself and others outrageously…….. which unites all of humanity.
Who are your top three people you would want to coach and why?
The CEO of Exxon Mobil…….. because I am an heiress of the company and I’m passionately interested in the biggest oil company leading the way in green energy.
Top Movie Makers ……… because I’d like to see excellent films in theaters all over the world that model a new paradigm for women, men, and how we relate to each other.
What were the greatest benefits you received from studying at the Hendricks Institute?
MAKING PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION FUN!!!! I learned how to approach any issue or stuck place with levity and curiosity. This has been HUGE for me everyday!
Having a tribe of allies where I could practice all these tools I was learning was a tremendous benefit. I had the opportunity to practice tuning into myself and others more deeply than any social setting and then communicate my experience. It’s one thing to learn about integrity/ being in touch with what’s true for you/ unwinding patterns etc., AND it’s another thing to bring it into your daily interactions with others. Then more I practiced with my learning buddies, the more I could LIVE IT!
The really quick shift that covers any and all circumstances: Any moment of contraction is simply an upper limits problem…….. no need to figure it out….. simply stop, presence, and shift!
The movie that inspired me most was _______. Why?
I don’t have a particular movie. However, I am most inspired by movies with big triumphs where people believe in themselves and give all of their juice to create what they want and make their dreams come true.
The Way of the Peaceful Warrior…………. This book was pivotal for me in my journey of awakening as a teenager. It opened my eyes to a whole new level of human potential and to how extraordinary people are ordinary and ordinary people are extraordinary.
What brings you the most joy in your day to day life?
Hugging myself when I wake up in the morning (I feel gitty just thinking about it :-)).
My husband Shems: snuggling with him, smelling him, thinking about him.
Lighting up someone else’s day…. especially strangers.
Moving my body outside.
Feeling the sun kiss my body with warmth.
Interacting with our 2 cats and 2 dogs.
Basking in the sensation-filled experience of being alive.
Top 10 things I couldn’t live without?
Prana filled air.
Pleasurable physical contact.
Fresh organic fruits and veggies.
Drinking and Swimming in yummy water.
Intimacy with people that light me up.
Playing: being silly/ goofy/ child-like.
My first semester of college, I chose “Meditation 101” as one of my classes. A few days into it, I had a profound experience in meditation where I felt “one with everything”. I felt deeply at peace and totally at home in a way that I hadn’t experienced before. During that meditation, I heard myself say “everything in my life from this day forward will be about this………. my work, my career, my service in the world, will be about uniting with this state of consciousness and supporting others in doing the same.” This was the beginning of what I would call “my spiritual quest.” I sought out classes, workshops, teachers, gurus, etc. to learn more about this state of consciousness and how to sustain it. I sat in rooms filled with people mostly 50 and older while I was 17, 18, and 19. I continued to immerse myself in personal growth opportunities throughout my 20s, attending workshops and intensives with the best people I could find. In 2003, I was told: THE HENDRICKS ARE COMING TO TOWN! They were highly recommended and without knowing anything about their work, I signed up! Shems, my now husband, signed up too (which was very unusual for him as he was super picky about doing a workshop with anyone). I remember the first moment I walked into the room of the foundation training. I was totally intrigued and taken aback by how much laughter, aliveness, and upbeat energy I felt in the room. I immediately compared it to all the other workshops I’d been to, and thought “what’s going on here, I’ve never seen this much fun happening in a workshop before?” I was sold……. sign me up baby!
What I really appreciate about the Hendricks work is that I got a really clear road map to navigate myself through any of my internal experiences. I had attended so many workshops, at that point of my life, and yet I hadn’t gotten 1/10 of the navigational tools that I got in the Hendricks work. Yes, at that point of my life, I had a deep understanding into the nature of the mind, and a great spiritual understanding of reality, as well as a thorough grasp of psychology and my own inner make-up. However, I didn’t have a clear navigational system in the areas of integrity, presencing emotional states, and creating what I most want moment to moment, both with myself AND in relating to others, which were key elements I received with the Hendricks. This was and IS so huge for me every day of my life. I’ve told dozens of people that I’d trade all of the education I received in school for the Hendricks work.
Every aspect of my life changed very quickly after I dove into these tools and implemented them: my health, my home, my relationship, my career, and my community. The most amazing part for me, is enjoying the marriage of my dreams with the man of my dreams. Shems and I bask in SO much fun and joy and play and magic and passion and love, TOGETHER! We both became so moved by this body of work, that we began teaching it together, and coaching couples together.
We now live in Santa Barbara and are about to move into our dream green home, which has been about a two year building project. Our property is an exquisite sanctuary where we offer our work as well as bring in other amazing facilitators. I am guide for women to live the life of their dreams, while Shems is a guide for men, and we join to guide men and women together. I am also passionately focused on transmitting the “wake up call” through performance art and film.